I have no spare time to work on a relationship.
Couples have come to my office, not because they have spare time, but because they are scared if they do not, their misery will get worse, their relationship will end, or they’ll end up staying in a very unhappy relationship for too long or be stuck indefinitely.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
I immediately assess the strengths and weakness of the relationship, identity the current problems, historical patterns, and set goals or therapy. Then together, we begin the work of understanding the reason the problem exists, learn the skills necessary to solve these problems. The work is very collaborative. And I am very active in session by:
- Presenting models to illustrate how couples’ problems develop.
- Providing concrete tools for couples to use outside of session.
- Conducting exercises and using techniques in session to improve:
- Emotion regulation skills
- Problem solving
The couple will certainly be the ones practicing and doing the work, but I am active at providing structure and guidance , as well as validation and help each partner understand each other when necessary.
How much does couple therapy cost?
Couple therapy can cost anywhere from $120 to $300. One advantage to the kind of couples therapy we offer is that our goal is to provide clients with skills as quickly as possible. Couples therapy is an investment that could possibly protect you from financial straits stress and heartbreak that comes with divorce, separation or moving on.
What if my partner doesn’t talk much?
Although working with couple’s therapist does involve communicating and talking to your partner, having a partner who is an introvert or who tends to be quiet is not unusual. The fast that he or she has committed to improving the relationship and attending the sessions is what is needed for counselling to be beneficial.
What if my partner does not want to come to couples counselling?
If this is your situation, that’s okay. Attending counselling by yourself in order to improve your relationship can still be very helpful. Sometimes this is how counselling begins, with the other person joining the therapy sessions later. Whatever you learn while attending on your own can be taken back into the relationship and shared with your partner.
I am worried that our couple therapist will take my partner’s side.
Our therapist act as neutral , unbiased observes and guides. Rather than take sides, we strive to understand where each person is coming from and what his or her story is , because every behavior has a reason. In therapy , you and your partner can find the acceptance and understanding your need to honestly examine your relationship and create positive change.
I don’t know if our relationship can be repaired.
The goal of therapy is to find the healthiest outcome for both partners. Sometimes, that does mean the end of the relationship. If you and your partner come to this decision, your therapist can help you both get a healthy place and find a sense of satisfaction and resolution. Many unhappy couples feel sick; this does not mean that a relationship cannot be saved. When a couple starts to see all aspects of each other (rather tat just those that initially drew them to one anther) , communication starts to break down or always seems to be an issue, and stress from everyday life like work,
finances, parenting, in-laws, and sex are causing a couple to grow distant , it’s a crucial time in a relationship where couples counselling and therapy can
How does couples therapy work ?
Couples typically meet with therapist once per week for a number of months depending upon the need of the couple. Couples therapy helps partner realize the value of love, comfort and support that come with a secure relationship.
How long will each session last?
Sessions are booked to last for 50 minutes. If you think you may need more time, please mention this when booking your appointment as this can often be arranged.
How many sessions will I need?
This will be entirely up to you, part of the counselling process is reviewing how it is helping with the issues you bring to the sessions. It is helpful to have a session once per week initially.
Will my information be kept confidential?
Your privacy is taken very seriously. Any information discussed during counselling will be kept confidential. The boundaries of confidentiality will be discussed with you during the first session.
What happens if I need to cancel my appointment?
You can cancel via phone call to 6225 5455. Fee will be payable if less than 24 hours notice is provided.
Where is Couple Therapy located?
Our office is at 10 Anson Road, International Plaza #24-09 Singapore 079903.